There are times when I create expectations about the way things should be that it destroys my ability to appreciate how things actually are.   For example, does this restaurant really serve the best meals one will ever eat? It’s natural to have expectations, but they must be realistic. Often there is nothing wrong with reality, rather, my expectations of it!

The disciples get a surprise in our Gospel today.  Jesus asks them a simple but puzzling question. “Who do you say I am?” After all, how long have they been with him?  Peter answers with the preconceived notion of who Jesus is and who the Messiah would be. Their expectation of Jesus and the reality of what it means to be the Messiah and what it means to be his disciples do not jive! For Jesus tells them, disciples must “take up their cross.” The disciples are hardly prepared for that kind of relationship.

It is no coincidence that our Gospel begins with the question of identity and then ends up with the cost of discipleship.  Jesus’ reality check about discipleship opens up possibilities for a richer life.

By being united with Jesus through our Baptism, we also participate Jesus’ life, death and resurrection, giving of ourselves for the good of others.


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  1. I, too, feel the old game of tug and war! As caregiver for a 95 tr old, uncle, a 91 yr old mother and a mother of a 16 yr old and being a wife, taking up the cross is real. I have good friends toi see me through and help me see the expectations in a better light.

  2. Tree, Expectations and reality are always a challenge!In my life dealing with family problems – I feel like the old game of tug and war!My expectation are not my children’s and dealing with the reality is my challenge. Just like the disciples I continually look for support to “take up the cross” realizing that I cannot do this alone.I am so grateful for the support system I have and the friends who love me.I believe that Tom/God watches over me but 2and 3/4ths years after his death I still miss his presence and imput with the boys!Love, Yvo

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